Thursday, 1 October 2009

When Your World Turns Upside Down

This is a little bit of an apology really. My blog is not getting my attention as much as it should do at the moment. I am feeling it is a little bit hit and miss, as life seems to have thrown our family a couple of curve balls ( I just love this American phrase, we would say 'thrown a spanner in the works' in England.)

I know I have mentioned before that my father in law is very poorly and his health has taken a turn for the worse in the last couple of weeks. Although this does not affect me directly, it does affect my husband deeply and life feels a little bit difficult at the moment. We live two hours away from my father in law and my husband has made four visits back and forth this week, when his father has deteriorated. I am worried for him and for his health as he is absolutely exhausted.

On top of that, my parents have now been offered a place to live near us. This will have a huge impact on my life; a good one, as they have lived two hours away up until now. The only problem with them moving, is their move date is the day we go on holiday. So I am now panicking over our home we may as well call Noah's Ark, due to the amount of animals. My parents are going to try and move in around our holiday, so that they can still look after our zoo.
I have to say my parents are fantastic, they always put other people's needs first and very easy going about the decisions they make. I shall need to help with the move, so the next couple of weeks will be busy.

I find at times like this, sometimes you have to put things on a back burner for awhile. My desire to write is sitting in a pristine new writing pad and folder, waiting for my undivided attention, which at present is wondering around aimlessly, suffering from lack of concentration. My blog posts recently have been hurried and definitely the worst I have written. You all leave such wonderful comments, that I am amazed you are reading the same blog posts that I throw together. I have made no attempt at answering comments, as my mind has been elsewhere, so apologies to all of you who have left messages.

I am still visiting blogs and will do my best to keep up with them. However, if I don't blog everyday, as I normally do, then don't worry too much. I haven't gone AWOL just yet. I just need a day to recoup.

Thanks for being such fantastic blogging friends.

32 comments:

  1. Take care, and I hope that everything will be ok. I will see you when you come back, or now and then

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  2. I actually like the British phrase better - "thrown a spanner in the works." Sorry so much has hit you all at once. Take care of yourself and your family - we'll be here when you get back.

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  3. Oh I hope everything calms down for you soon! Take care and we will still be here. I love your blog and the wonderful comments you make on mine. Thank you! :)

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  4. Keeping your father in law, your husband and all of you in my thoughts.

    I also wish your parents a good move and hope it all works out for your holiday. Take care!

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  5. Take all the days you need! I'll admit I haven't noticed a drop in content quality but I may not be reading as thoroughly these days what with newborn brain and all. I'm sorry to hear about your father in law. I hope things improve and slow down for you and your family.

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  6. You never have to apologize for taking some time off! You do a wonderful job here and when you need a break, take one. Your family and your health are far more important right now. I hope things get better for you soon.

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  7. It's absolutely understandable. Don't feel bad about taking as much time as you need! We'll just be glad to see you back once your life has calmed a bit. Best wishes with everything happening right now.

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  8. It's absolutely understandable. Don't feel bad about taking as much time as you need! We'll just be glad to see you back once your life has calmed a bit. Best wishes with everything happening right now.

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  9. There's absolutely no need to apologize, Vivienne! We all go through phases like that, in which everything seems to be happening at once. We'll still be here once things calm down. Take care of yourself and your family for now!

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  10. No need for any apologies. Remember to look after yourself in all of this, sometimes easier said then done, I know. My best wishes to you all.

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  11. Viv, wishing you and your husband the strenght you need to get you through the "bumps in the road ahead". We love ya and your blog, and we'll be here when you need us.

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  12. I am a relatively new visitor here, but I just love clicking over and seeing those delightful cupcakes!

    Reading your blog is a cozy experience, and I always enjoy those!

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  13. What a wonderful wife, daughter, mother, daughter-in-law, etc! Yes - life can throw us some curves at times, just know that we are rooting for you!

    Hugs ~ Wendi

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  14. I know I'm a fairly new reader but still just want to send you a big hug! I know how difficult life is when our loved ones aren't doing well or are going through major transitions (even if they are good). Sending lots of calming and good vibes for you and your family.

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  15. You do yourself a diservice saying things like this don't affect you directly. I've been there with Craig being the one in your situation and looking back I know how much it affected him but we all leaned on him because it was 'our' Mum and he propped us up. He loved her as if she was his second Mum and she definitely loved him as the son she never had so I can really empathise with your situation.

    Don't worry about not blogging just know that we are all here should you need us. I'm just an email away even if it's just to rant and rage.

    BTW if your recent blogs are evidence of not very good writing - this book is going to be an absolute knockout ;)

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  16. Aw, hun, don't worry about it. Life gets in the way. We'll still be here when you come back if you need some time.

    I'm really sorry to hear about your father-in-law. I really do wish him all the best.

    And good luck to your parents with the move. That's exciting that they'll be moving closer. Enjoy your holiday - A good rest and getaway might just be what you need.

    Whenever you get the chance (as I know you're busy so don't worry :) ), I have an award for you here:

    http://notinthepink.blogspot.com/2009/09/awards-galore.html

    :)

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  17. Vivienne, as multiple bloggers have reminded me multiple times the past few months, take care of yourself and your family and we'll certainly be here when you get back. No one is going anywhere. Please don't let the blog put you into a fit of guilt. Best wishes to you and your family during this difficult time.

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  18. I am overwhelmed by everyone's wonderful comments. You really are the people around.

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  19. Shall I rephrase that - you really are the most wonderful people to have around.

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  20. Oh Vivienne, sweetie, you need not worry about us! We'll be here whenever you can pop in. You just take care of yourself! I'm so sorry about your father-in-law...my heart is aching for your husband. And I know how very hard it must be on you in turn. And should you need anything, you've got a heaping pile of friends out to ask for help.

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  21. Take care Vivienne. As you can see, we don't go anywhere. And you're such a dynamo, I never noticed that you were blogging under duress. You're just that good.

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  22. I'm sorry about your father-in-law and that you are dealing with so much at one time.

    Maybe this will help a little bit - I left something for you in my blog, please pick it up when you have the time, no rush!

    Hang in there. As my grandma loved to say "This too shall pass".

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  23. Don't worry about blogging, Vivienne. Just take care of yourself and your family.

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  24. I'm sorry to hear this, Viv. Don't worry about your blog. You have so much to take care of at the moment. I will pray for you and your family. My thoughts are with you!

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  25. I pray for your father-in-law to get better. You take care, Vivienne! We are not going anywhere. Blogging can take a break.

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  26. Family health matters can be exceedingly stressful. Your readers will be waiting for you if you need to step away for a while.

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  27. Don’t worry, Vivienne! I hope everything goes well for you and your family! I love to visit your blog and read what you have to say, and I like your reviews! Take care!

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  28. Hi, Viviene! I do hope everything turns out to be fine. Blogging can indeed take up much time, so it's okay if you can't make daily postings.

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  29. Everyone goes through similar times, so just take as much time as you need to and we will still be here. I have to remind myself of the same thing. I've had stuff going on in my life in the past month that has been too personal to share on my blog and it's made it really hard to find time to read, post and comment on other blogs. I've come to the conclusion that some days are better than others and eventually things will get back to normal.

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  30. Dont worry about blogging, real life comes first :O)
    I hope everything works out for you. Sorry to hear about your father in law.


    http://thebookworm07.blogspot.com/

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  31. I can completely understand how life gets in the way sometimes Viv. I hope life settles for all of us soon so we can get back to blogging and things like that but there are other more important things sometimes. Take care my friend. Hugs.

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  32. Just piping in and agreeing with others--real life certainly gets in the way,as evidenced by the poor blogging I too have been doing. There is only so much time in a day, and our families should always come before blogging!

    How exciting for you to have your parents move closer--

    *smiles and happy thoughts to you*
    Kim

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